Wednesday, November 27, 2013

A Positive Attitude Can Change Your Life


I wrote this post a few years ago, but I might as well have written it two days ago. It all rings true. This time of year can be hectic and challenging for many people, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Life is a gift. Be grateful for your friends and family. Be grateful to be alive. Be Buddha!


“We become what we think about, all day long.”
--Ralph Waldo Emerson

On January 1, 2007, I decided to begin a new life and I’m not talking about making New Year’s resolutions. I made goals for myself: Exercise five days a week and write five pages a day—NO MATTER WHAT (Laundry, groceries, cleaning, cooking would have to wait until my daily goals were met). I decided to call this the ME year. I also decided to fill myself with positive energy and then pass it on to my family and anyone else I happened upon. Right away things started happening. I received an email from a local journalist asking to interview me about my life as a writer. She didn’t care that I was a struggling unpublished writer. The interview was enlightening and fun. People began to approach me and told me that my story inspired them. My kids began to notice a difference in me. The woman I exercise with left a DVD of The Secret at my door. I watched it twice and I knew my positive thoughts had attracted the DVD right to my doorstep.

“Imagination is everything. 
It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”
--Albert Einstein

The Secret DVD has flaws. Don’t we all? If you watch the entire DVD though, hanging on to the stuff that works for you, it could change your life. I was mesmerized because I knew I had already started using some of the principles of the Law of Attraction. Like attracts Like. Negative attracts Negative. Positive attracts Positive. Below are the things that helped me. And remember, the Law of Attraction is only ONE tool to help you improve your life.

Take responsibility. Take responsibility for the things, good and bad, that have happened in your life. I feel I attracted the bad things and the good things that have come my way. Scientists have proven that we are all made up of energy. Think of yourself as tiny particles. Quantum physicists have proven that like energy attracts like energy. Whatever it is you choose to focus on is exactly what you are drawing to you. Start focusing on the things you want: happiness, financial freedom, a stress-free life, a publishing contract, etc. And then begin to visualize these things as if they have already happened to you. It only takes seconds to feel the power of good positive thoughts. When you’re tired, don’t think “tired.” Think energizing thoughts. If you can’t go to bed and take a nap, what good is thinking about how tired you are going to do you? You have nothing to lose by thinking positive. Nothing. Take all negative words out of your life. If you keep telling yourself that a task is going to be hard, then guess what? It’s going to be hard!

Be grateful. I think this is THE most important thing to do if you truly want to change your attitude and your life. Be grateful for every single thing you have. If you aren’t getting along with someone, remember all the wonderful things about that person. Look around you and be grateful for your eyesight. Be grateful for your legs that help you get around. If a messy house drives you nuts, be grateful you have a roof over your head. Be truly grateful and you’ll make room to receive more wonderful things into your life.

Be positive. Positive that you’re going to get a front parking spot at the store. Positive that today is going to be the best day ever. Positive that you will get everything done that you need to. Positive that any financial problems will take care of themselves. Positive that you will write five pages a day, that you will get an agent, that you will publish.

Action. Don’t just sit on the couch wishing. Do something. You might not know what to do, but putting yourself out there, even if it’s going for coffee with a friend, will lead to the next thing or idea. The very ACT of being, thinking, and feeling positive will make you feel happier. If you want to be published some day, you need to write. If you want to be rich, you need to come up with an idea or go to work. If you want to have a stress-free life, you need to stop sweating the small stuff AND the big stuff. You need to take action.

Amazing changes will occur. Once you start thinking positive, everybody you come into contact with, including your family, will react differently toward you. They will become more accommodating and/or cooperative. You’ll relax more and worry less. You’ll look and feel younger.

Life Still Happens. Think positive, but also keep your logic intact and know that your car might still break down, your kid might not make the soccer team, you might lose your car keys or stub your toe, but HOW you REACT will make all the difference in the world. Since surviving cancer, Lance Armstrong said, “I now have good days and great days.” You don’t have to survive cancer to feel the same way.

“We will not build a peaceful world by following a negative path.”
--Martin Luther King Jr.

Being positive, for whatever reasons, doesn’t appeal to everyone. Read up on the Law of Attraction and positive thinking and convince yourself to give it a chance. The power of positive thinking can do things beyond your imagining. If the idea seems strange, give it a try anyhow. You have nothing to lose, but only to gain. Ignore what others might say or think about you once they discover you are changing the way you think. My son pointed out that people aren’t changing around me, but that I’m seeing people in a new way, perhaps even through rose-colored glasses. Maybe he’s right. But you know what? It’s working for me. The other day I came home from a two hour PTC meeting and my daughter asked me how it went and I said, “AMAZING.” And it was. My husband rolled his eyes and said, “Everything that happens to you can’t possibly be amazing.” I laughed and said I would stop using that word around him so much and I could see his mind reeling, perhaps remembering the old me, and he said, “No. No. Keep doing whatever you’re doing. I like it.”

“We are shaped by our thoughts, we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.”
--Buddha


9 comments:

Vonda Sinclair said...

I agree, Theresa! Inspiring post! The Law of Attraction definitely has changed my life for the better, too.

Theresa Ragan said...

Hi Vonda! Thanks for the nice comment. The law of attraction is such a simple concept, but it really works. The law of attraction, positivity, being grateful, even happiness itself...it all takes some training. None of those things just fall at your feet. I used to think I would be happy as soon as THIS happens or maybe THAT happens...but that's so not how it works!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Abbi said...

Hi, Theresa,

I totally and absolutely agree with this post. Thanks for sharing.

Abbi :-)

rabia basri said...

One of them is to avoid negative influences. These should be observed from all aspects, including people who are close to us. Even if it is someone close to you , as a family member or close friend , you should not tolerate their bad behavior . Try to stay away from it as much as possible. Choose your friends carefully and only do things that you are comfortable with instead of trying to impress others. syeda Basri

Cresta Ogle said...

Well, I truly believe that it was the Law of Attraction that lead me to find your website, Theresa! IT WORKS!!!

I have been writing here-and-there for years (children's and young adult fiction) and became discouraged when I received rejection letters. I am reading the latest book by the creator of The Secret, Rhonda Byrne, called "Hero", and she has a whole section devoted to "following your bliss."

After I read that part, I began writing again and noticed that the ideas just FLOW! Then I was on Amazon.com shopping for something completely unrelated to writing and saw in the bottom corner of the page a link for self-publishing. Curious, I clicked it and read your little snippet there. I Binged your name, found your site, and, WHAM!, here it all is, hitting me in the face! I am SUPPOSED to write! I am SUPPOSED to self-publish! I am FOLOWING MY BLISS!!!

Thank you! Your story has given me such hope!

Theresa Ragan said...

Hi Abbi, thanks!

Theresa Ragan said...

HI Cresta, I haven't read the HERO book yet, but I will! I love your post. I think my post was just for you! Good luck with your writing. You can do this!

Nicole MacDonald said...

I feel rather spooked reading this...
For the last week I've been re-listening to my MP3 version of The Secret. I've set myself some fairly big goals this year and I began to feel a bit overwhelmed at the concept, hence re-listening to The Secret to help me focus my mind on my goals.
I'm a NZ indie author and the people I work with (receptionist by day, novelist by night *grin*) know that I write and published my works via kindle. Not one hour ago a work mate told me that he'd seen an interview in this morning's 'Morning Show' about an indie author hitting it big on Amazon. So I decided to have a nosey and found your blog via Amazon. And holy wow, what should the first blog post I see be about, but The Secret.
All misty eyed and delighted now *lol* Feeling much gratitude ;) Oh, and well done on your success on Amazon, that is SO neat!

T IV said...

Hi Nicole, I LOVE your comment. Definitely meant to be that you found this post! I am wishing you much success with your writing and all of your life goals! You can do it!